On sonder & MBTI w/ Kristin
Personality psychology comedy content creator, Kristin (she/her) joins Freyia (she/her) to chat about how MBTI and learning about the Jungian theory of the 8 cognitive functions can be a wonderful tool to better understand and love others.
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Content Warnings:
There are brief mentions of burnout, grind culture, familial conflict and trauma.
As well as this, there is an extended conversation about indulgence in sensory pleasures, and whether this is good, bad or something else.
There is also an extended conversation about how having a victim mentality may not be the best way to live.
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References:
Please listen to S3E2 (and if you are inclined, check out the supplementary content in the References section of that episodes’ shownotes) before listening to this episode, if you are unfamiliar with the 8 cognitive functions from Jungian theory.
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Kristin’s Patreon:
https://www.patreon.com/dearkristin
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What the Hell is Grind Culture and Why is it so Toxic and Ableist? - Nishanth Peters
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Resolving the Incommensurability of Eugenics & the Quantified Self - Gabi Schaffzin
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What Is Restorative Justice - Restorative Justice Council
https://restorativejustice.org.uk/what-restorative-justice
The problem with calling people 'toxic' - Emma Jenkings
What Happens When We Decide Everyone Else Is a Narcissist - Jia Tolentino
Sorry, Not Everyone You Dislike Is A Narcissist - Eleanor Morgan
https://www.refinery29.com/en-gb/how-to-spot-a-narcissist
Everyone is a Narcissist, Everyone is a Victim - Elisabetta Franzoso
https://elisabettafranzoso.com/articles/everyone-is-a-narcissist-everyone-is-a-victim
The case against empathy - Sean Illing
Using empathy to use people: Emotional intelligence and manipulation - Jamil Zaki
https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/moral-universe/using-empathy-to-use-people-emotional-intelligence-and-manipulation/ e.
The meme Kristin references:
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Note: Kristin and her sister Jenna explain ‘Te tone’ - amongst other things - in this video
Answering Your Questions With My ENFP Sister (part 1) - dearkristin
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Coregulation - Jessica Maguire
The Mind at Work: Lisa Feldman Barrett on the metabolism of emotion - Antony Wing Cosner
It is not just the brain that changes itself – time to embrace bioplasticity? - International Association For The Study Of Pain
https://www.iasp-pain.org/publications/relief-news/article/time-to-embrace-bioplasticity/
Does the human body replace itself every 7 years? - Donavyn Coffey
https://www.livescience.com/33179-does-human-body-replace-cells-seven-years.html /
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The (Real) INFJ Explained - Mind F.cked
Are ALL ESFPs ENTERTAINERS!?! ft.@dearkristin | ESFP Personality Type Stereotypes - Joyce Meng
Dear Kristin @dearkristin ESFP Interview — 16 Personalities Skits + the ESFP Personality Type - Joyce Meng
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Susan Cain: 'Society has a cultural bias towards extroverts' - Ian Tucker
https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2012/apr/01/susan-cain-extrovert-introvert-interview
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Hedonism and Pleasure - Philosophy Tube
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What Is Dissociation?- Mind
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Why Is It So Hard For Sensing And Intuitive Types To Understand One Another? - Maris McKay
MBTI Rant: Why Sensors Frustrate Intuitives & Vice Versa - Dueling Personalities
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Note: Kristin and her brother Cameron touch on differences between people who have a ‘thinking’ vs ‘feeling’ function - amongst many, many other things
Answering Your Questions With My ENTP Brother - dearkristin
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The Wounded Inner Child - Shirley Davis
https://cptsdfoundation.org/2020/07/13/the-wounded-inner-child/
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Note: Here are a few pieces of content (in addition to those list before and after) of Kristin's content in which she explores MBTI personality typology with her friends and family as a means to foster better understanding of each other.
Playing The Paddle Game With My ENFP Sister (feat. your questions) - dearkristin
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16 Personalities On Vacation (feat. my siblings) - dearkristin
A Deep Dive Into The ENTJ Personality (feat. My ENTJ Housemate Marie) - Literally No Subtext With Dear Kristin
https://open.spotify.com/episode/2lAZXcMgyMafR8ker8410G?si=ntnU8X1WQQOGBkzO-sUfdg
Unpacking The ENFJ Personality (feat. ENFJ Laith) - Literally No Subtext With Dear Kristin
https://open.spotify.com/episode/3GS8gkEMls1tvlLK8SVYtF?si=K6HtS__xR6uK013nl0YDnw
Unpacking The EXTJ Personality (feat. My ESTJ and ENTJ Housemates) - Literally No Subtext With Dear Kristin
https://open.spotify.com/episode/3mmEcp8PYQo4oB1bgLbFue?si=xM2u_vWPTgKbnUE41iMHXw
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Meta-Communication - Meg-John Barker
https://www.rewriting-the-rules.com/conflict-break-up/communication/
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How We Experience Our Introverted Feeling (feat. My ENFP Sister Jenna) - Literally No Subtext With Dear Kristin
https://open.spotify.com/episode/4Y59IWiu918SDoIsTjrvdN?si=SckxKAfDSP2BKpBhWAiahQ
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Bird Box
https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2737304/
Shoot from the hip - Cambridge Dictionary
https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/shoot-from-the-hip
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What Is The Choleric Temperament? - BetterHelp Editorial Team
https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/temperament/what-is-the-choleric-temperament/
Exploring The Traits Of A Sanguine Temperament - BetterHelp Editorial Team
https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/temperament/15-benefits-and-traits-of-sanguine-temperament/
Four Temperament Search Results - Science Direct
https://www.sciencedirect.com/topics/psychology/four-temperament
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Note: Kristin and her sister Jenna explain ‘S-ing out’ - amongst other things - in this video
Answering Your Questions With My ENFP Sister (part 2) - dearkristin
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Credits:
H O S T
Freyia Lilian
G U E S T
Kristin
Website: https://hellodearkristin.com/
YouTube: https://m.youtube.com/channel/UC5XC9aaEks0YAR2z55C62Og
Instagram: @dear.kristin
M U S I C
Foxhunt (he/him)
Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/foxhunt-official
S O U N D
Will Ainsworth (he/him)
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