On relating whilst struggling w/ Christine
Christine (she/her) joins Freyia (she/her) for a heart to heart on the realities of being in relationship with others when you are both struggling.
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Content Warnings:
Discussion of self neglect and relational conflict throughout. There are brief mentions of death, suicidality and trauma.
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References:
Mad Activists: The Language We Use Reflects Our Desire for Change - Lisa Archibald
https://www.madinamerica.com/2021/09/mad-activists-langauge/
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The Centre For Addiction & Mental Health, Toronto
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Neoliberal Anxiety: Depression, Loneliness and Suicide Under Late Stage Capitalism - Eco Gecko
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Vegan Straight Edge - astropics.co.uk
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What is Mast Cell Activation Syndrome? - Mast Cell Action
https://www.mastcellaction.org/about-mcas
Am I More Susceptible to Shinsplints Because of EDS? - Karen Del Vecchio
https://ehlersdanlosnews.com/columns/am-i-more-susceptible-shinsplints-because-eds/
What Is EDS? - The Ehlers-Danlos Society
https://www.ehlers-danlos.com/what-is-eds/
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Shutdown Vs Freeze - JustinLMFT
https://www.justinlmft.com/post/shutdownvsfreeze
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4 Things Everybody Gets Wrong About Attachment Styles - Andrea Glik
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Meta-Communication - Meg John Barker
https://www.rewriting-the-rules.com/conflict-break-up/communication/
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Toronto Blue Jays
Website: https://www.mlb.com/bluejays
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The Unbearable Lightness Of Being - Milan Kundera
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/9717.The_Unbearable_Lightness_of_Being
Study Guide - The Unbearable Lightness Of Being - Milan Kundera - Language and Communication - Shmoop
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What Is Mad Studies - International Mad Studies Journal
https://imsj.org/what-is-mad-studies/
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Limerence: Briefly You See The Divine In Everything (and The You Chase It To Death) - Crappy Childhood Fairy
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Coregulation - Jessica Maguire
Coregulation and Self Regulation - Jessica Maguire
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Joie de vivre
https://www.vocabulary.com/dictionary/joie%20de%20vivre
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Self-Soothing: What it is, Benefits, & Techniques to Get Started - Brooke Schwartz
https://www.choosingtherapy.com/self-soothing/
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Emotional Libertarianism in Polyamory: Are We Responsible for Other People’s Feelings? - Polyphilia
https://www.polyphilia.blog/home/emotional-libertarianism-in-polyamory
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Biological Rudeness - Chris Ellman
https://centerforhealingkc.com/blog/biological-rudeness
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Being a Highly Sensitive Person Is a Scientific Personality Trait. Here’s What It Feels Like - Julie Fraga
https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/what-its-like-highly-sensitive-person-hsp
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Communication pt. 1
Freyia Lilian
We walk into the room together.
There is silence.
I take off my coat, I show you my dress.
I made my dress myself.
You look at me.
I take off my socks, I show you my legs.
My legs are always bruised.
You look at me.
I take off my dress, I show you my thighs, my stomach, my arms, my chest.
My stomach distends as in a medieval painting.
You look at me.
I stand there in my lingerie.
You turn your back.
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Credits:
H O S T
Freyia Lilian
G U E S T
Christine Peddle
M U S I C
Foxhunt (he/him)
Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/foxhunt-official
S O U N D
Will Ainsworth (he/him)
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If you are concerned about your mental health, Folie À Deux always recommends turning to trusted members of your community first.
This is also a reminder to check up on your favourite people, even those you consider holding it together just fine.
In the words of Drs Amelia and Emily Nagoski:
“The cure for burnout isn’t self care, it’s all of us caring for each other.”
Access allowing, spending your time and resources finding a supportive professional you gel with can be invaluable to your journey.
If you are in crisis and you don’t know where to turn, Strong 365 hosts their own free 24 hour peer led online mental health chat which can be found here:
https://www.7cups.com/p/strong365/?wla=strong365
A thorough list of mental health helplines for a range of countries can be found here:
https://www.helpguide.org/find-help.htm
The world is better with you in it.
