On positive masculinities w/ Dan
Freyia (she/her) and Dan (he/him) dive deep into a nuanced, but by no means exhaustive, discussion on reconnecting with positive masculinities.
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Content Warnings:
Discussion of mental health challenges for men and masculine folk throughout.
There are specific mentions of the following topics at the time stamps provided:
21:02 - 22:02 - Suicide
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References:
Féile - Irish word for festival
https://etymologeek.com/gle/f%C3%A9ile/10452338
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What Is Gender? - Philosophy Tube
Trans 101 - The Basics - Minus 18
5 Non-Binary People Explain What “Non-Binary” Means To Them - Tinder
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=kVe8wpmH_lU
“…my understanding of the reports that I’ve seen is that they [binary trans people] experience some of the highest levels of these sorts of problems [mental health challenges.]”
Understanding Mental Health In The Transgender Community - Health Partners
https://www.healthpartners.com/blog/mental-health-in-the-transgender-community/
Barriers To Health Care For Transgender Individuals - Joshua D. Safer, Eli Coleman and Jae Sevelius
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4802845/
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Males and Mental Health Stigma - Benita M Chatmon
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7444121/
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The Unbearable Lightness Of Being - Milan Kundera
https://www.sparknotes.com/lit/unbearablelightness/summary
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Social Mindfullness Zine - Meg John Barker
https://rewriting-the-rules.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/socialmindfulnesszine.pdf
Writing Our Own Scripts - Meg John Barker and Justin Hancock
https://megjohnandjustin.com/you/writing-our-own-scripts/
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What Is Patriarchy? - Choices Programme
Is Patriarchy The Source Of Men’s Higher Mortality Rates? - D Stanistreet, C Bambra and A Scott-Samuel
https://jech.bmj.com/content/59/10/873
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The Larrikin Legacy - Convict Creations
http://www.convictcreations.com/history/larrikin.htm
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No Poor People Through That Door – Another Sign Of The UK’s Growing Class Divide - Faiza Shaheen
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Vulcan
https://memory-alpha.fandom.com/wiki/Vulcan
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Is Normative Male Alexithymia Associated with Relationship Satisfaction, Fear of Intimacy and Communication Quality among Men in Relationships? - Emily N. Karakis and Ronald F. Levant
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.3149/jms.2003.179
Why Men May Struggle to Communicate Their Feelings - Understanding Male Alexithymia, and How To Get Past It - Kate Balestrieri
Interoception and Emotion - Critchley et al
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2352250X17300106
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What Is Toxic Masculinity? - Maya Salam
https://www.nytimes.com/2019/01/22/us/toxic-masculinity.html
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The Will To Change - Bell Hooks
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/17601.The_Will_to_Change
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Emily and Amelia Nagoski
https://www.burnoutbook.net/about-the-authors
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Audre Lorde quote
https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/3174701-men-who-are-afraid-to-feel-must-keep-women-around
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Come As You Are - Emily Nagoski
https://www.emilynagoski.com/home
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Credits:
H O S T
Freyia Lilian
G U E S T
Email: daniel@beyondequality.org
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/daniel-guinness-a9045862
D I S T R I B U T I O N P A R T N E R
Strong365
Website: https://strong365.org
M E N T O R S H I P
Chantel Garret (she/her)
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chantelgarrett
M U S I C
Foxhunt (he/him)
Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/foxhunt-official
S O U N D
Jake Burgess (he/him)
Bandcamp:
USKK - https://uskk.bandcamp.com/album/yr-hen-ogledd
DJ Death Sentence - https://windowmusic.bandcamp.com
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If you are concerned about your mental health, Folie À Deux always recommends turning to trusted members of your community first.
In the words of Drs Amelia and Emily Nagoski:
“The cure for burnout isn’t self care, it’s all of us caring for each other.”
Access allowing, spending your time and resources finding a supportive professional you gel with can be invaluable to your journey.
If you are in crisis and you don’t know where to turn, Strong 365 hosts their own free 24 hour peer led online mental health chat which can be found here:
https://www.7cups.com/p/strong365/?wla=strong365
A thorough list of mental health helplines for a range of countries can be found here:
https://www.helpguide.org/find-help.htm
The world is better with you in it.
