On mindtygers pt.3 w/ Charlie
Whilst writing about her experience of overwhelm, Freyia coined the term ‘mindtygers’ to describe the paralysis and distress felt by feeling overcome by all the ideas you want to bring into the world whilst not having the resources to complete them all. Charlie - a fellow creative - joins Freyia to explore this experience in all its facets.
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Charlie O'Connor - The New Rebellion
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/5dTv1jiF7hi11N0aPF1y2n?si=dacd32619eb84e44
Bandcamp: https://charlieoconnor.bandcamp.com/track/the-new-rebellion
YouTube video: https://youtu.be/voXFVDKB7jY
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Content Warnings:
28:22 - 36:15 - JK Rowling / Harry Potter / Transphobia
30:29 - 30:59 - Sexual abuse
31:16 - 33:23 - Childhood abandonment
65:20 - 69:18 - The benefits system - how it isn’t conducive or supportive for people regaining financial independence ts
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References:
Sofie Hagen
Website: https://www.sofiehagen.com
Instagram: @sofiehagendk
Twitter: @SofieHagen
I Love The UK and Would Like To Stay (Please). But You Need A Few Lessons On Being Danish - Sofie Hagen
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Shazam
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“That's the great secret of creativity. You treat ideas like cats: you make them follow you. If you try to approach a cat and pick it up, hell, it won't let you do it. You've got to say, "Well, to hell with you." And the cat says, "Wait a minute. He's not behaving the way most humans do." Then the cat follows you out of curiosity: "Well, what's wrong with you that you don't love me?”
Ray Bradbury from Zen and The Art Of Writing
https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/8953495-that-s-the-great-secret-of-creativity-you-treat-ideas-like
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Adult Attachment Theory and Research - A Brief Overview - R Chris Fraley
http://labs.psychology.illinois.edu/~rcfraley/attachment.htm
How To Overcome An Anxious Attachment Style - Dear Kristin
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Carl Jung and The Shadow: The Mechanics Of Your Dark Side - Metamorphosis 77
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On The Value Of Mythologizing Yourself - Tad Waddington
https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/smarts/200901/the-value-mythologizing-yourself
Mythologizing the Self: Archetypes and Self-Orientation - Ryan Wasser
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What Is World Building - Definition, Examples, Techniques - Sam Kench
https://www.studiobinder.com/blog/what-is-world-building/
Worldbuilding For Masochists Podcast
https://worldbuildingformasochists.podbean.com/
I Will Write My Life Into Existence - Shannon Ashley
https://medium.com/honestly-yours/i-will-write-my-life-into-existence-65a41b5d4c76
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Freyia’s mentor, Anita Cassidy
Websites:
https://www.anitacassidy.uk
https://www.alethya.com
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Community (free) Yoga at Brighton Yoga Foundation in Brighton, UK
https://www.brightonyogafoundation.org/yoga-community-outreach
Freyia’s Community Yoga Teacher Training teacher, Hannah Lee Weller
https://omretreats.co.uk/teachers
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What Is Proprioception? How Does Your Brain Know Where Your Body Is? - Learning Curve
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What It Means To Self Objectify and How We Can Stop Doing It - Allie Marie Smith
https://blog.darlingmagazine.org/what-it-means-to-self-objectify-and-how-we-can-stop-doing-it/
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What Does It Mean To Kill Your Darlings - Master Class
https://www.masterclass.com/articles/what-does-it-mean-to-kill-your-darlings
Who Really Said You Should “Kill Your Darlings?” - Forrest Wickman
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J.K. Rowling - Contrapoints
Responding To JK Rowling’s Essay - Is It Anti Trans - Jammidodger
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Unhappy Childhood Can Stunt Growth - Amanda Kelly
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What Is Reparenting and How To Begin - The Holistic Psychologist
https://theholisticpsychologist.com/what-is-reparenting-and-how-to-begin
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Structural Dissociation- DIDR
https://did-research.org/origin/structural_dissociation/
Introduction To Structural Dissociation - The CTAD Clinic
Memory and Trauma - Jessica Maguire
Plural Selves - Meg-John Barker
https://www.rewriting-the-rules.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/12/PluralSelvesZine.pdf
Parts Work Therapy - Dr Arielle Schwartz
https://drarielleschwartz.com/parts-work-therapy-dr-arielle-schwartz/#.YuVIqBAo8go
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Nietzsche’s Eternal Return - Alex Ross
https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2019/10/14/nietzsches-eternal-return
Eternal Recurrence: What Did Nietzsche Really Mean? - Jack Maden
https://philosophybreak.com/articles/eternal-recurrence-what-did-nietzsche-really-mean/
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How To Overcome The Freeze Response - NICABM
https://www.nicabm.com/topic/freeze
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The Artist’s Way - Julia Cameron
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‘I Want Songs’ In Context - Carol de Giere
https://www.musicalwriters.com/writing-a-musical/i-want-songs-in-context
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Change Your Brain and Nervous System With Self Directed Neuroplasticity - Jessica Maguire
https://youtu.be/qGX30TrCk9s
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Credits:
H O S T
Freyia Lilian
G U E S T
Charlie O’Connor
Instagram: @charlie.o.connor
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/charlie.o.connor
D I S T R I B U T I O N P A R T N E R
Strong365
Website: https://strong365.org
M E N T O R S H I P
Chantel Garret (she/her)
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chantelgarrett
M U S I C
Foxhunt (he/him)
Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/foxhunt-official
S O U N D
Jake Burgess (he/him)
Bandcamp:
USKK - https://uskk.bandcamp.com/album/yr-hen-ogledd
DJ Death Sentence - https://windowmusic.bandcamp.com
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If you are concerned about your mental health, Folie À Deux always recommends turning to trusted members of your community first.
In the words of Drs Amelia and Emily Nagoski:
“The cure for burnout isn’t self care, it’s all of us caring for each other.”
Access allowing, spending your time and resources finding a supportive professional you gel with can be invaluable to your journey.
If you are in crisis and you don’t know where to turn, Strong 365 hosts their own free 24 hour peer led online mental health chat which can be found here:
https://www.7cups.com/p/strong365/?wla=strong365
A thorough list of mental health helplines for a range of countries can be found here:
https://www.helpguide.org/find-help.htm
The world is better with you in it.
