Freyia Lilian (she/her) helps curious folk heal fractured relationships with food, eating & body image.

Meet Freyia

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  • Interested in working together? Let’s get together for a coffee to see how we click.

    I offer all potential clients a thirty minute meeting for free via Google Meet (or your platform of choice.)

    If you live within the Brighton & Hove area of the UK, dependent on my availability, I may be able to meet you in person.

    Just fill out this form and I will get back to you within one working week to arrange.

  • Our thirty minute coffee meet will be your chance to ask me any clarifying questions, as well as letting me know what you are interested in working on together.

    If we decide to collaborate, we will embark on a ‘discovery period’ of up to six pay-as-you-go sessions.

  • During our discovery period we will examine your current situation, explore what you’d like to work on together and the ways I could guide you through this process using my knowledge and skill set.

    You’re welcome to up to six discovery sessions. They can be booked in one go, or one at a time, subject to availability. You are welcome to experiment with session length and cadence to see what suits you.

    I offer one hour, ninety minute or two hour sessions. Scroll down for prices.

    All discovery sessions can be paid for on a pay-as-you-go basis.

  • At the end of our discovery period we will arrange our first ‘review’ to talk about how you are finding our work.

    If we decide to continue working together, we will also use this session to create a personalised agreement.

    Our agreement will lay out the frequency and length of our sessions, how long our first ‘ongoing period’ will be, as well as the cost and payment plan. There is more information on how I handle payments below.

  • Once our agreement has been signed, our first ongoing period of sessions will begin.

    As standard, ongoing sessions are all paid for in advance on a monthly basis. (If this payment plan is impossible for you to commit to I am open to negotiation.)

    At the end of your first ongoing period we will meet for our second review. We can use this time to reflect on our progress; evaluate our focus; if necessary, make any changes to our agreement; decide how long our next ongoing period will be and book our next review.

    If we decide that our work together has come to it’s conclusion, we can arrange an optional ‘closing session.’

  • At the end of our time working together you have the option to meet for a closing session.

    During this session we can review our work, celebrate our wins and if relevant, discuss your transition to the next chapter of your self exploration story.

The Process

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Sessions are priced on a sliding scale

  • I offer one client at a time, who cannot afford the lowest price of my reduced fee bracket, their sessions free of charge.

    If you would like to work with me, and cannot afford to pay for my services, I encourage you to reach out to me here.

    If my free service is unavailable for the foreseeable future, you can request to be added to my waiting list. Those on the waiting list will be contacted via email when the free slot becomes available, on a first come first served basis.

    I would love to have more resources to offer clients that cannot afford to pay for my services, and I hope in future I will be able to do this.

  • 1 hour
    £15 - £49

    90 mins
    £25 - £74

    2 hours
    £30 - £99

  • 1 hour
    £50

    90 mins
    £75

    2 hours
    £100

Theories, approaches & foundations to this work

  • Developed by seasoned dieticians Elyse Resch (my wonderful supervisor) and Evelyn Tribole, Intuitive Eating (IE) is a weight inclusive, evidence based framework designed to improve difficult relationships with food, eating and embodiment.

    Summarised by Resch as “a dynamic interplay of instinct, emotion and thought” IE consists of 10 ‘principles.’ Each principle works to reattune you to your interoceptive experiences (internal bodily sensations) and investigate your rules, beliefs, and thoughts about food, eating and bodies.

    The framework is firmly rooted in social justice and is anti diet culture.

  • Developed by psychologist, neuroscientist and researcher, Dr Steven Porges, Polyvagal Theory identifies three primary states of the autonomic nervous system: relaxed - mediated by the ventral vagal pathway; mobilised (the ‘fight or flight’ stress response) - mediated by the sympathetic nervous system and immobolised (the ‘collapse’ stress response) - mediated by the dorsal vagal pathway.

    These states blend to create hybrid states of activity/playfulness (the relaxed state merged with the mobilised state); calm/intimacy (the relaxed state merged with the immobilised state) and the ‘freeze’ stress response (the mobilised state merged with the immobilised state.)

    Together, we can explore the way you experience each state, and build your own ‘Emotional Apothecary’ of bespoke evidence-based remedies to return yourself to a space of calm when things become overwhelming.

  • An embodied approach to personal styling takes into account how clothing feels physically, as well as the emotional feelings clothes evoke in the imagination of the wearer and others. It encourages an emphasis on seeking comfort from your personal style - whatever that means to you.

    Embodied Styling does not seek to impose a ‘right’ way to present yourself or profess that everybody should place importance on their physical appearance. Instead, the approach examines your current style, how you feel about it, what it could communicate in different contexts, if you want to make any changes and how you would like to go about this.

“Freyia has the empathy & skills to help me explore my relationship with my body safely, at my own speed. I am continually impressed by her deep listening, understanding & communication.”

— Barb R, Current client

  • I stand by ASDAH’s (The Association for Size Diversity and Health) statement that health “cannot be characterised as the absence of physical or mental illness, limitation, or disease. Rather, health exists on a continuum that varies with time and circumstance for each individual. Health should be conceived as a resource or capacity available to all regardless of health condition or ability level, and not as an outcome or objective of living. Pursuing health is neither a moral imperative nor an individual obligation, and health status should never be used to judge, oppress, or determine the value of an individual.”

    I am happy to work with clients whose mental and/or physical health impacts their day to day living.

    As a GSRD (gender, sex and relationship diversity) aware practitioner I am queer friendly, trans inclusive, kink aware and non judgmental towards non monogamous relationship structures and lifestyles.

    I recognise the existence of patriarchy and how this cultural structure negatively effects all genders.

    I also recognise that people of colour continue to be discriminated against in myriad ways in modern society.

    I offer sliding scale fees, and one free slot, in my schedule to make as much space for those on lower incomes that my current circumstances allow.

    I hold space in my practice for people of all faiths, spiritual beliefs or lack of.

    However, I acknowledge that as a human I am imperfect, and will make mistakes as I continue to dismantle the ways in which my thoughts and actions have been shaped by our racist, patriarchal, heteronormative, cisnormative, ableist and classist capitalist culture.

    I believe the current mainstream culture (in the UK at least, where I live) divorces us from our bodies, promoting putting its basic needs to the side in service of making us more ‘productive.’ This wellbeing practice is my small act of resistance.

    My cultural résumé is that I am a white, university educated, monogamous, femme, heteroflexible, ‘mid-size’, cis woman from a working class background. I have personal experience of physical and mental illness. I recognise I have many privileges that are unearned. I am aware that my background and experiences effect my worldview.


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